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Published by Rise Books
Distributed by Simon & Schuster
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About The Book
When a long-single love coach goes to Paris to reinvent herself—she discovers that the real plot twist isn’t finding true love, but learning how to make it stay.
On the brink of 40, Dufflyn had a résumé full of almosts: almost love, almost success, almost escape. Armed with a strange inherited “magic” and a deep fear of becoming another forgotten Hollywood story, she does the only thing that makes sense—she gets on a plane to Paris.
And then… she meets Benjamin.
He’s magnetic. He’s French. He’s fresh out of heroin addiction and on parole for carjacking. Naturally, they fall in love. What unfolds is a raw, electric story about desire, delusion, and the risk of choosing love when everything—logic, history, survival—says girl, no. In Paris, Dufflyn discovers that after years of self-work and recovery, love might finally be real… or it might be the most dangerous fantasy yet.
You Had Me At Bonjour is a genre-bending romantic memoir that weaves surreal, whimsical elements into true events—exploring the space where fantasy collapses and intimacy begins. Think: the poetic introspection of White Magic meets the seductive backdrop of Emily in Paris—but with real stakes, real heartbreak, and real transformation. This is a story about longing, self-deception, devotion, and the courage to see clearly—especially when you don’t want to.
It’s funny. It’s devastating. It’s hopeful. And it just might make you believe in love again.
On the brink of 40, Dufflyn had a résumé full of almosts: almost love, almost success, almost escape. Armed with a strange inherited “magic” and a deep fear of becoming another forgotten Hollywood story, she does the only thing that makes sense—she gets on a plane to Paris.
And then… she meets Benjamin.
He’s magnetic. He’s French. He’s fresh out of heroin addiction and on parole for carjacking. Naturally, they fall in love. What unfolds is a raw, electric story about desire, delusion, and the risk of choosing love when everything—logic, history, survival—says girl, no. In Paris, Dufflyn discovers that after years of self-work and recovery, love might finally be real… or it might be the most dangerous fantasy yet.
You Had Me At Bonjour is a genre-bending romantic memoir that weaves surreal, whimsical elements into true events—exploring the space where fantasy collapses and intimacy begins. Think: the poetic introspection of White Magic meets the seductive backdrop of Emily in Paris—but with real stakes, real heartbreak, and real transformation. This is a story about longing, self-deception, devotion, and the courage to see clearly—especially when you don’t want to.
It’s funny. It’s devastating. It’s hopeful. And it just might make you believe in love again.
About The Author
Dufflyn Lammers, “The American Love Coach in Paris,” is a writer who is also trained in Attachment Repair, Tantra, and addiction treatment.
Her writing and performance on relationships has been featured in Russell Simmons Def Poetry on HBO, Business Insider, the Los Angeles Times, The Good Life Review, Santa Fe Writers Project, and in the film BELLY from Artisan Pictures. Her one-woman show Discovered debuted on the West End in London, May 2017 and was nominated for the Duende award at the Hollywood Fringe that same year. Dufflyn co-edited the anthology Chorus with Saul Williams, 2014 (Simon & Schuster). She is anthologized in Poetry Slam: The Competitive Art of Performance Poetry, edited by Gary Glazner, 2000 (Manic D Press, Inc).
She is the founder of www.dufflyn.com, where she offers online courses, an online community, and one-to-one coaching for women who want to succeed at sex, love, and dating. She lives in Paris, and You Had Me At Bonjour is her first book.
Product Details
- Publisher: Rise Books (June 4, 2026)
- Length: 286 pages
- ISBN13: 9781959524250
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Raves and Reviews
"Dufflyn's book shows us that love - in all of its messy, glorious, hand-wringing forms - can always be worth it if we're willing to be brave. You Had Me At Bonjour is the perfect Paris love story in that it is not perfect. It is hard and funny and delightful and at the end of the day, much like Paris itself. Exquisitely beautiful but also a poignant lesson in the work that love can require."
– Elizabeth Gilbert, author of All The Way To The River
"You Had Me At Bonjour is an extraordinary story of resilience, romance and recovery. This story captured me with it’s magic from page one. Dufflyn has the courage to say the things so many of us want to say but feel we aren’t allowed to say. You feel like she’s telling your story, because really it is the story of love.”
– Sia, singer, songwriter
"You Had Me at a Bonjour is one of the rarest of romantic memoirs - one where love actually...wins! Dufflyn is a beautiful writer whose journey of being a middle-aged woman (and recovering actress) who falls in love with a former junkie in Paris is at once unexpected, challenging, and yet still, a love story for the ages. Just when you think romance is dead, You Had Me at Bonjour reminds us that we can find love in the unlikeliest people, even if it's in the likeliest of places!"
– Jennifer Pastiloff, National Bestselling author, On Being Human and Proof of Life
"Dufflyn Lammers true story of meeting a bad boy in Paris has all the makings of a love story gone wrong. But as Dufflyn shares, sometimes two committed people can right the wrongs of their lives. And each other's. You Had Me at Bonjour is like the real Emily in Paris, except its protagonists have been through some stuff. In her heart-breaking and heart-bursting memoir, Dufflyn recounts how she met the love of her life and how together, they learned how to turn a romantic tryst into a long-term partnership. And a reminder to us all that love is still alive."
– Cynthia Rice Ellingsen, Bestselling author of the Starlight Cove series
"You Had Me at Bonjour is a reminder to us all that love is very much alive. Dufflyn’s memoir breaks your heart and fixes it in what is a helpful guide in transformative commitment and powerful testimony of healing, growth, and righting wrongs through the chance encounter with the love of your life."
– Saul Williams, rapper, musician, poet, and actor
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