From the Introduction
There are many Highly Sensitive People (HSP) nowadays, walking around on our planet. Many of us were granted the permission to reincarnate during these times, times of transformation of Planet Earth. We, who decided to come here now, are thus developed souls--sensitive. Not all developed souls are sensitive, but those who have received this tool have been entrusted with it. We would be comfortable living in a balanced society, but Western society makes us suffer. By “Western society” I do not mean actually where you live but how you live (your rhythms and habits; you could live in Tibet or Nepal and live a “Western” life).
Many books have been written about spiritual development, practices and theory, but most of them, although they cover many topics of healthy lifestyle, energetic practices and meditation, don’t directly address the problems (and where is a problem there is an opportunity) facing sensitives in daily life. Very few books explain the logic and the structure of--the reason for--sensitivity, let alone the benefits of it from a spiritual perspective.
To be honest, I have never come across a book dealing with the topic of sensitives that is written from the perspective of a balanced person. Most of them seem to be written by people whose perception and thinking is dominated by the left side of the brain, and is thus imbalanced. The imbalance, the dominance of the left side of the brain in our lives, is the fundamental cause of suffering for sensitives. People like me who are authors and teachers and would like to help others can only help someone reach their own level, not beyond.
Sensitivity is a complex situation that needs a complex approach. Well, complex in the sense of how many aspects of life it affects. But in another way, everything is simple.
Our reality is multidimensional and we are multidimensional creatures. But we try to solve problems from the perspective of linear thinking--in other words, only from the left hemisphere of the brain. This means that we are trying to solve problems within the boundaries and with the way of thinking that created them. Our society does not look to solve problems but to eliminate the symptoms so as to make the subject comfortable for society and productive for the economy.
One example is the way we see and deal with emotions, mind, consciousness and subconsciousness. We see them as physiological phenomena and try to “train” them in the same way. We don’t give them proper learning or attitude or try to balance them. We do not understand them at all, so how can we balance them?
Hypersensitivity, sensitivity and empathy do affect the physical body very much; however, as they come from our energetic bodies rather than the physical, they have to be addressed from this perspective. Sensitivity is a talent or a tool that our soul takes before incarnating, but this tool is so strong that we see it as a part of a person’s nature or character. It cannot be taken away but it can be adjusted and controlled. The purpose of the tool we call sensitivity is to take in big amounts of information on a subtle level. It is a gift if we know how to use it, but a painful curse when we don’t. In this book you will find the reasons and explanations for your sensitivity, and the practical solutions to turn it from a burden to a blessing. The simple truth is: the bigger the potential for suffering, the bigger the potential for flourishing and happiness.
The Western reader is accustomed to receiving a lot of information and explanations from books (this is a logical and left-side-of-the-brain approach). We believe that if we read about transformation then we will experience it. But too much information without practice is actually doing more harm than good. The left side of the brain--in fact, the whole brain--is just one of the ways we receive and analyze information. For sensitive people, overengagement of the brain, particularly its left side, brings a lot of stress, discomfort and suffering.
The book includes information, explanations and practices. One of the purposes of the book is to switch your attention from the left side of the brain into balanced, whole-brain activity and to the other senses. The exercises are aimed at helping you to develop and balance what you already have and are designed to reflect your subtle structure. You must learn to do things from the perspectives you have, your sensitivity and beyond, step by step reducing the dominance of the left side of the brain.
I have written this book very much from my perspective: the perspective of a sensitive person, balanced and with strong intuition. A while ago, I was also living this suffering and imbalance, trying to fit into society and imitate its behavior.
The book contains all the information I think and hope might benefit you. I have largely assumed that I am writing for a reader who is on or is about to start on a spiritual path; but the exercises are for everyone--anyone can incorporate them into their life. So, if you don’t like or agree with some parts, if things do not connect or resonate with you, or even if you find some of my words absurd, feel free to skip those parts--as long as you do keep in some way doing the exercises. Remember, we reach understanding and knowledge through experience, not theory. This book’s exercises are experiences and they will teach you about their nature and your nature. You may not like all of the exercises or feel that they’re compatible with you or yield much in the way of results, but I would still advise that you do all of them. The first reason to do the exercises is for the effect it has on us; but the experience we gain from doing them is also valuable and important. I would like you to try to find a way to keep at and succeed in those exercises that generate relatively lesser results. This is all part of self-learning.
The book is structured in a way that reflects a person’s inner balance, rather than being a purely left-side-of-the-brain creation. It contains a lot of heart, goodwill and love. Read from the heart, understand it with intuition and give it time.
The (morning) candle
Time and duration
First thing in the morning for 5 minutes.
What to do
Take a simple candle, light it and put it in front of you (a hand to a hand-and-a-half away) and visualize it.
How to do it
Take a few moments to memorize the candle. After you are sure you have an image of it, close your eyes and visualize the candle in the center of your head (don’t worry too much about locating the physical center). If you wish to be more accurate, visualize it at the pineal gland (again, don’t worry too much about physical accuracy). When you have it there, look at it, let your concentration be on it. Stay on the image of the candle you have created in your mind for the whole period of 5 minutes. There has to be only silence and candle.
As you do it more, you should work on making the image of the candle more elaborate. Begin to see more details of the candle in the image you create in your mind. Details like texture, color, contours, and reflections.
What not to do
• Don’t fight or suppress your thoughts. Thoughts will come. Just keep concentrating on the candle. If you catch yourself daydreaming and led away by your stream of thoughts, just come back to the candle.
• Don’t introduce distractions by combining it with other things--music, TV, meals or anything else.
• Don’t do the exercise for more than 5 minutes, even if you only concentrated on the candle for 10 seconds and for the rest you were flying in the skies.
• If a feeling appears, don’t switch your concentration to the feeling (even if it is a very pleasant one); stay on the image of the candle.
How and when do I know it’s working?
People who meditate or do other related practices will usually feel the effect kick in within three to five days.
For other people it will take a bit longer. I cannot really say how long. But just keep doing the exercise. If you don’t feel the effect, maybe you have put the image in the wrong place in your head, or you aren’t concentrating on the candle. Play with it till you find the right place. And keep working on concentrating on it. You train yourself by persistence and repetition.
It may sound like it will take months, but it won’t; it is a relatively easy and fast-working exercise.
Why am I doing it?
Sensitive people are sensitive because they feel energies, so they have to deal somehow with these energies. This exercise strengthens the concentration and awakens the organ that, together with the concentration, will control those energies. The power of concentration is the power of will, and the energies follow the will.
So very simple
Morning, candle, 5 minutes only, no distractions.