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Don't Call Me Mother

A Daughter's Journey from Abandonment to Forgiveness

Published by She Writes Press
Distributed by Simon & Schuster

About The Book

“I wanted to tell the secret stories that my great-grandmother Blanche whispered to me on summer nights in a featherbed in Iowa. I was eight and she was eighty . . .” At the age of four, a little girl stands on a cold, windy railroad platform in Wichita, Kansas, watching a train take her mother away. For the rest of her life, her mother will be an only occasional—and always troubled—visitor who denies her the love she longs for. Linda Joy Myers’s compassionate, gripping, and soul-searching memoir tells the story of three generations of daughters who, though determined to be different from their absent mothers, ultimately follow in their footsteps, recreating a pattern that they yearn to break. Accompany Linda as she uncovers family secrets, seeks solace in music, and begins her healing journey—ultimately transcending the prison of her childhood and finding forgiveness for her family and herself. This edition includes a new afterword in which Myers confronts her family’s legacy and comes full circle with her daughter and grandchildren, seeding a new path for them.

About The Author

Linda Joy Myers has always been deliciously haunted by the power of the past to affect people in the stream of time. She has integrated her passion for history and her own struggles with intergenerational trauma into her work as a therapist and writer. The power of the truth to educate current generations about the past led Linda Joy to explore the little-known history of WWII in the weeks following the fall of France—which in turn led her to write The Forger of Marseille. She is the author of two memoirs, Don’t Call Me Mother and Song of the Plains, and four books on memoir writing. She’s also the founder of the National Association of Memoir Writers. You can learn more about Linda Joy’s work at www.namw.org and www.lindajoymyersauthor.com. She lives in Berkeley, CA.

Product Details

  • Publisher: She Writes Press (February 13, 2013)
  • Length: 380 pages
  • ISBN13: 9781938314087

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Raves and Reviews

“Myers takes you to her most sustaining love—the prairie land of the Midwest—and concludes her story as a return to that place where forgiveness becomes 'a feather on my heart, as natural as the plains wind.'”
—Shirley Showalter, former president of Goshen College, author of the blog I Have a Story

Don’t Call Me Mother takes us deep inside the mind of a young girl who has been spurned by that most important person in her life: her own mother. Without a guide to help her develop into a woman, Myers is forced into a vulnerable, innovative search for dignity and survival that is at the heart of every hero’s tale.”
—Jerry Waxler, M.S., founder of the Memory Writers Network, author of Four Elements for Writers and Learn to Write your Memoir

“Myers is courageous and persevering in this story about the primal pain of mother abandonment.”
—Tristine Rainer, author of Your Life as Story: Discovering the New Autobiography and director of the Center for Autobiographic Studies

“With poetically visceral prose, Linda Joy Myers tells of her relentless work to emerge from an abandoned and abused child to a forgiving and loving daughter, mother, and grandmother. This must-read memoir brings her raw dark secrets to life. I couldn't tear myself away.”
—Madeline Sharples, author of Leaving the Hall Light On

“Linda Joy Myers eloquently renders the details of her past in this transformative memoir, allowing all of us to find redemption through her honest courage. For anyone yearning for self-discovery, Don't Call Me Mother serves as a compelling guide on a journey to wholeness. I loved the book.”
—Michele Weldon, assistant professor, Northwestern University and author of I Closed My Eyes and Writing to Save Your Life

“The new afterword pulls back the veil and lays bare the actual healing power of memoir. Poignant, visceral, and triumphant, this new section left me shaken and stunned with its raw beauty. As a reader, I felt I was witnessing transformation.”
—Kathleen Adams LPC, Author, Journal to the Self and Scribing the Soul Director, Center for Journal Therapy and Therapeutic Writing Institute

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